今年的除夕夜在姨婆的家度过。今天晚上的晚餐都由从厦门来的两位大厨师精心准备。因此，晚餐的佳肴是在比得上山珍海味，其美味的程度更是前所未有。我实在是太有口福了！他们准备了大约6道菜，我不晓得各佳肴的名称，这6样菜包括：五香，肉卷，清蒸鱼，古老肉，还有一道汤。也许是我对食物比较敏感，有些食物我一看就猜得出它的味道，这6道菜的味道却差强人意，比我想像的可口多多倍！
我们边吃边聊天，只可惜，我听不懂闽南话，不能与前辈们共享乐趣。但从他们的谈话中，我略知一二。我看见2对夫妻，他们是我的姨婆及她的先生（以辈分来称呼应该是我的叔公吧！）；另一对夫妻当然是名厨及她的太太（就称他们为伯父，伯母吧！）伯母说了一句话：我可以放弃很多东西，唯独我要求丈夫陪在我身边。之后又是听不懂的闽南话。接着，她又对叔公说：您就定下来，不要再回印尼了，留下来陪姨妈吧！现在我们都不年轻了，留下来好好的一起度过晚年吧！流浪的日子是年轻的时代，但我们已经不是了。
这两句话在我脑海中一直盘旋着，也令我领悟一些道理：真爱不是虚幻的，而是实体。真爱不需要有情人用头脑来想象另一半对自己的爱情，反倒是用实际行动向对方展示关怀及眷顾。还有，年轻的时候我们大都被其他事情忙得团团转而忽略了对方，这往往造成认知上的误解。比如：当上爸爸的男人会在事业上更努力，为的是支撑家庭，应服物质上的需求。因此，他们往往忽略，在女人心中：精神上的支持远比物质上的支持重要的道理。于是，刚当上妈妈的女人可能会多疑，如果处理不当，可能因而产生误会甚至不愉快的事情。
因此，常听别人说爱情其实很简单，甚至是勇敢去爱，我不完全否认他们的论点，但在爱情的世界里，千万要记得时常关注对方的感受，尽管是已经很要好的伴侣。
Saturday, January 28, 2006
Friday, January 27, 2006
farewell (2)
After he left, I boarded the skytrain to travel from T1 to T2 (where the mrt station is located). On the way from T1 to the mrt, though I was listening to music via my mp3 phone, I had a strong sense of loneliness for no reason. It was the earliest mrt service, not many people was on the train.
On the way from Changi to Buona Vista, I told myself: I must grab a chance to travel to other country to enjoy, especially those 4 seasoned- countries. Not only to relief from the high stress level here, but also to fulfill my dream (which I had looking forward since I was a kid). It's just a simple dream, I want to play with snow and experience the windy atmosphere during autumn.
Anyway, during the train transition at Tanah Merah, the next mrt was filled with lots of passengers. Most of them are students who stay far from their schools (uh hu......) After another long journey, finally I came to my office, my cubicle. That was around 7am, my first time to arrive at office so early, perhaps it's going to be the last time as well. I was trying to take a nap before the official office hour started, but thanked to the cafe mocha which kept me in the excited state. Anyway, I managed to force myself to rest my eyes and my brain for about 20 minutes before office hour started.
I was not in any mood, too tired to show any expression on my face. Luckily I was able to wake myself up when I was meeting with my mentors. Finally, just before 6pm, immediately I started to pack my stuff and ready to leave, I guess that's also the first time I left the office sharp at 6pm. After bathing and dinner, ZzzzZzzzzzz NICE SLEEP ZzzzZZzzZZzZZZZzzzZZz
On the way from Changi to Buona Vista, I told myself: I must grab a chance to travel to other country to enjoy, especially those 4 seasoned- countries. Not only to relief from the high stress level here, but also to fulfill my dream (which I had looking forward since I was a kid). It's just a simple dream, I want to play with snow and experience the windy atmosphere during autumn.
Anyway, during the train transition at Tanah Merah, the next mrt was filled with lots of passengers. Most of them are students who stay far from their schools (uh hu......) After another long journey, finally I came to my office, my cubicle. That was around 7am, my first time to arrive at office so early, perhaps it's going to be the last time as well. I was trying to take a nap before the official office hour started, but thanked to the cafe mocha which kept me in the excited state. Anyway, I managed to force myself to rest my eyes and my brain for about 20 minutes before office hour started.
I was not in any mood, too tired to show any expression on my face. Luckily I was able to wake myself up when I was meeting with my mentors. Finally, just before 6pm, immediately I started to pack my stuff and ready to leave, I guess that's also the first time I left the office sharp at 6pm. After bathing and dinner, ZzzzZzzzzzz NICE SLEEP ZzzzZZzzZZzZZZZzzzZZz
Farewell
Ok, this happened 2 days ago. It just happened that I have the time to write it now. My friend or my old classmate since secondary school was leaving for Hong Kong for student exchange. He was in my room the night before the flight. On his request, he would like to know what's D-O-T-A about. So I turned on my PC and showed him. After a few minutes watching, he fell asleep zZzZzzzZzzZZZ..... After the game, it's around 1am. My turn to sleep. Around 4pm, he woke me up and he was ready to go to airport.
Without much delay, I changed, washed up and took my bag then we left the room. Again, without waiting too long, a cab came. We took the cab and travelled all the way from NUS (or PGP rather) to Changi. We didn't talk much on the journey, I was trying my best to sleep -> to restore my vitality as much as possible. However, this funny taxi driver turned on the volume of the radio to maximum. The songs were nice but those songs were good to him but bad to me! Oh well, I supposed he's sleepy (coz he's trying hard to talk to us but we didn't response much coz both of us are half-awake), so he needed the loud music to keep him awake.
Ok, so much about the taxi driver. We came to Burger King. It was around 4:40am and that was the first time I had EARLY breakfast in BK. The flight was 6:50am, which is another 2 hours time. The 2 hours flashed and dissappeared in a blink (we were chit-chatting there without knowing that time passed so fast).
Finally, he left. That's the end of the story. All the best to him in Hong Kong, till we meet again :)
P/S: Thanks for the meals in BK
Without much delay, I changed, washed up and took my bag then we left the room. Again, without waiting too long, a cab came. We took the cab and travelled all the way from NUS (or PGP rather) to Changi. We didn't talk much on the journey, I was trying my best to sleep -> to restore my vitality as much as possible. However, this funny taxi driver turned on the volume of the radio to maximum. The songs were nice but those songs were good to him but bad to me! Oh well, I supposed he's sleepy (coz he's trying hard to talk to us but we didn't response much coz both of us are half-awake), so he needed the loud music to keep him awake.
Ok, so much about the taxi driver. We came to Burger King. It was around 4:40am and that was the first time I had EARLY breakfast in BK. The flight was 6:50am, which is another 2 hours time. The 2 hours flashed and dissappeared in a blink (we were chit-chatting there without knowing that time passed so fast).
Finally, he left. That's the end of the story. All the best to him in Hong Kong, till we meet again :)
P/S: Thanks for the meals in BK
Sunday, January 22, 2006
BBQ again!
There was another Sabahan BBQ again yesterday night. Yup, it's held at PGP BBQ pit 1 (again!?) Before we set up the fire, we heard the roaring thunder, and it rained (again!?) It continued to rain until 6:30pm. Ok, we continued with our plan, hoping that people will still come down and join us despite the rain. Thankfully, in the end the turn up was quite good :)
I realised that I've been organizing this kind of gathering for at least 5 times (each semester since I was in year 1 sem 2)! And, finally I can hand over the job to someone else (though he's not a Sabahan, strictly speaking :P) Anyway, just some thoughts after organized the bbq for so many times. Firstly, the hardest thing in organizing this bbq is to get people's reply. If they don't reply, we can hardly do anything coz we dunno how much food should be bought and how much everyone should pay for the food on the night itself. Worst still, some people cannot make the decision until the night before the BBQ. Not forget those who replied and said they'll come but didn't turn up in the end without informing any of the organizing committee (how sad!) Also, there were also people who came but never eat (since they never ate anything, they dun have to pay). They never told us that they are coming but NOT eating even though we've bought their food (what the.......... anyway, look at it another way, that means we can eat more, hahaha!)
ok, so much about the complains (in fact I have more, but enough, before my blood vessel burst......). Anyway, I am glad that the juniors were willing to help out to organize this event, especially Chung Ang, Kathy, Yun Qing, Jia Chuan, Hsien Loong for contact, purchase and preparation and cooking. Not forget the seniors, especially Andy and How Tze who have been helping me since the first bbq we organized. Thanks a lot :) Also, special thanks to Suk Yee and Alex who were so generous to be the sponsor of the event last night. Also, I'd like to thank Ah Woo for lending us the water container; and Christine, who lend the camera.
Ok, I am looking forward the next Sabahan gathering bbq. Be it organized by Chung Ang or the NTU people, I just hope that you all will do a better job than me and I'll just sit down and being served, hahahaha!
I realised that I've been organizing this kind of gathering for at least 5 times (each semester since I was in year 1 sem 2)! And, finally I can hand over the job to someone else (though he's not a Sabahan, strictly speaking :P) Anyway, just some thoughts after organized the bbq for so many times. Firstly, the hardest thing in organizing this bbq is to get people's reply. If they don't reply, we can hardly do anything coz we dunno how much food should be bought and how much everyone should pay for the food on the night itself. Worst still, some people cannot make the decision until the night before the BBQ. Not forget those who replied and said they'll come but didn't turn up in the end without informing any of the organizing committee (how sad!) Also, there were also people who came but never eat (since they never ate anything, they dun have to pay). They never told us that they are coming but NOT eating even though we've bought their food (what the.......... anyway, look at it another way, that means we can eat more, hahaha!)
ok, so much about the complains (in fact I have more, but enough, before my blood vessel burst......). Anyway, I am glad that the juniors were willing to help out to organize this event, especially Chung Ang, Kathy, Yun Qing, Jia Chuan, Hsien Loong for contact, purchase and preparation and cooking. Not forget the seniors, especially Andy and How Tze who have been helping me since the first bbq we organized. Thanks a lot :) Also, special thanks to Suk Yee and Alex who were so generous to be the sponsor of the event last night. Also, I'd like to thank Ah Woo for lending us the water container; and Christine, who lend the camera.
Ok, I am looking forward the next Sabahan gathering bbq. Be it organized by Chung Ang or the NTU people, I just hope that you all will do a better job than me and I'll just sit down and being served, hahahaha!
Thursday, January 19, 2006
耐人寻味（二）
有三个人，他们被捕到一个村庄准备处刑。但酋长正好办喜事，于是给他们一次机会。他就把他们放置在三间房间，这三个房间被透明的玻璃墙隔着。然后他们被戴上一顶帽子，酋长对他们说：我有５个帽子：三顶白色，两顶黑色。如果你们认为你们戴的是白帽，那么你们可以安全离开房间；但如果你们戴的是黑帽，你们离开房间时就会被电击而死。
房间是被透明的玻璃墙隔着，他们可以看见对方戴什么颜色的帽子，唯独不能看见自己的帽子，也不能与对方沟通（不仅语言沟通，连肢体语言也不行）；亦即A可以看见B及C戴的帽子，但却不能看见自己戴什么颜色的帽子。
结果，他们都犹豫好久，于是他们决定一起离开，而且还是安全的离开了。请分析其中的逻辑（亦即他们如何肯定自己戴的是白帽而不是黑帽）。
房间是被透明的玻璃墙隔着，他们可以看见对方戴什么颜色的帽子，唯独不能看见自己的帽子，也不能与对方沟通（不仅语言沟通，连肢体语言也不行）；亦即A可以看见B及C戴的帽子，但却不能看见自己戴什么颜色的帽子。
结果，他们都犹豫好久，于是他们决定一起离开，而且还是安全的离开了。请分析其中的逻辑（亦即他们如何肯定自己戴的是白帽而不是黑帽）。
Tuesday, January 10, 2006
短暂即永恒：后记
在咖啡馆的时候，她看见他的耳机。于是，他就把手机拿出来，播了里面的歌，让她欣赏。这时候，她问了他一个问题：你。。。。。。有女朋友吗？他那时笨笨地摇头并说没有，她笑笑地问：太忙了是吗？他又笨笨得点头并说是的。他反问她，她只是笑笑地摇头说没有。
其实，他正想说：不，我没有女朋友，并不是我很忙。的确，课业的繁重给他不少的麻烦，而且能让他放下课业的事情少得可怜。他不敢100%保证，但如果他身为别人的男朋友，他一定会尽一个男朋友该尽的责任。所以说他太忙其实是一个借口。
他当时想说的是：他还在等待他眼前这位女孩的回复，这一等，会等多久，他不知道。只是，他想让她知道，如果她选择的不是他，那请答应他，一定要找个一她为中心的男人来照顾她下辈子，还有记得要比他活得更好，更幸福，更快乐。
他衷心的祝福她。。。。。。
其实，他正想说：不，我没有女朋友，并不是我很忙。的确，课业的繁重给他不少的麻烦，而且能让他放下课业的事情少得可怜。他不敢100%保证，但如果他身为别人的男朋友，他一定会尽一个男朋友该尽的责任。所以说他太忙其实是一个借口。
他当时想说的是：他还在等待他眼前这位女孩的回复，这一等，会等多久，他不知道。只是，他想让她知道，如果她选择的不是他，那请答应他，一定要找个一她为中心的男人来照顾她下辈子，还有记得要比他活得更好，更幸福，更快乐。
他衷心的祝福她。。。。。。
Sunday, January 08, 2006
短暂即永恒
离开故乡，回到英国已将近1星期了。1星期前的今晚，他终于遇见他朝思暮想的人。他那一次回去不久，仅仅两个星期。他在想，如果这一次不能见面，那么他还得等多久？他们已经2年了没有见面了。
当天下午，他发了一则短讯约她出来会面，那是他第一次与女生单独约会。那不是什么高贵的餐馆，里面没有优雅的音乐，没有烛光晚餐，更没有服务员到他们的桌子为他们演奏一首曲子。那只不过是一间咖啡馆。
就在下午，他收到了她的回复：好吧！那我们今晚见面！他当时的心情无法用笔墨来形容。于是，他就把之前折好的纸星星放进瓶子里面，把瓶子也带着去约会了。
他在约会时间的前10分钟已经进了咖啡馆，就在那里等待她的出现。在等待的同时，他掏出他的手机，如常的听音乐。在这同时，他的心情有点紧张，不晓得2年不见的她，会有怎么样的改变。他也担心平时不多话的他会面临冷场的尴尬局面。更担心万一突然下大雨，她临时取消约会。这一切一切令他的心产生一种莫名的恐惧感 。好久没有这种经历了，他做事情一向很有信心，极少会有这种恐惧感。然而在这短短的10分钟等待时间竟然差点把他打倒了。
终于，她出现了！她依然带着2年前那灿烂的笑容，斯文的走到他面前的座位坐下来。在他脑海中浮现了2年前她的影子，然而，在他眼前的她显得比从前更加漂亮,更加有魅力。
他们就边喝饮料，边谈天。在谈天的过程中，他努力地把她的样貌，她的眼神以及她的笑容刻画在他的脑海中，因为他知道，今日一别，不晓得何时可以在重逢。因此，那短短的2小时对他而言是非常的宝贵，每一份，每一秒他都必须珍惜。他要把握时间，把这短暂的约会便成永恒的记忆。
他送她回到家时，他就把瓶子交给她。她向他道谢，并告诉他说她把他之前送给她那装满纸星星的瓶子放在她的房间里。此刻，他心里感到又高兴又有点难过。高兴是因为她珍惜他对她的用心；至于难过，这不需要多解释，一切尽在不言中。
他没有勇气向她许下任何的承诺。他坦诚地说他一直恋慕着她，这是事实。但反观她对他又是怎么样? 无论如何，他们以后要走的路还很遥远，一路上有很多未知数，一路上铺着不少疑问号，一路上的街灯泯灭模糊，彼此都看不清未来的旅程，未来的路途。换句话说，彼此都心知肚明，他们成为伴侣的可能性太渺小了。有人问他，既然是这样，那么为什么还要那么执著？老实说，他也不完全明白为什么，也许爱情真的是盲目的。
他真的不知道在何年何月何时，在什么地方会再见到她，也许是在街上碰见？也许是下一次同学会？也许是她结婚的日子？但他希望在将来的某年某月某天，他们将会在同一间咖啡馆重逢，再续当晚的那美丽邂逅。
他期待着这一天。。。。。。
当天下午，他发了一则短讯约她出来会面，那是他第一次与女生单独约会。那不是什么高贵的餐馆，里面没有优雅的音乐，没有烛光晚餐，更没有服务员到他们的桌子为他们演奏一首曲子。那只不过是一间咖啡馆。
就在下午，他收到了她的回复：好吧！那我们今晚见面！他当时的心情无法用笔墨来形容。于是，他就把之前折好的纸星星放进瓶子里面，把瓶子也带着去约会了。
他在约会时间的前10分钟已经进了咖啡馆，就在那里等待她的出现。在等待的同时，他掏出他的手机，如常的听音乐。在这同时，他的心情有点紧张，不晓得2年不见的她，会有怎么样的改变。他也担心平时不多话的他会面临冷场的尴尬局面。更担心万一突然下大雨，她临时取消约会。这一切一切令他的心产生一种莫名的恐惧感 。好久没有这种经历了，他做事情一向很有信心，极少会有这种恐惧感。然而在这短短的10分钟等待时间竟然差点把他打倒了。
终于，她出现了！她依然带着2年前那灿烂的笑容，斯文的走到他面前的座位坐下来。在他脑海中浮现了2年前她的影子，然而，在他眼前的她显得比从前更加漂亮,更加有魅力。
他们就边喝饮料，边谈天。在谈天的过程中，他努力地把她的样貌，她的眼神以及她的笑容刻画在他的脑海中，因为他知道，今日一别，不晓得何时可以在重逢。因此，那短短的2小时对他而言是非常的宝贵，每一份，每一秒他都必须珍惜。他要把握时间，把这短暂的约会便成永恒的记忆。
他送她回到家时，他就把瓶子交给她。她向他道谢，并告诉他说她把他之前送给她那装满纸星星的瓶子放在她的房间里。此刻，他心里感到又高兴又有点难过。高兴是因为她珍惜他对她的用心；至于难过，这不需要多解释，一切尽在不言中。
他没有勇气向她许下任何的承诺。他坦诚地说他一直恋慕着她，这是事实。但反观她对他又是怎么样? 无论如何，他们以后要走的路还很遥远，一路上有很多未知数，一路上铺着不少疑问号，一路上的街灯泯灭模糊，彼此都看不清未来的旅程，未来的路途。换句话说，彼此都心知肚明，他们成为伴侣的可能性太渺小了。有人问他，既然是这样，那么为什么还要那么执著？老实说，他也不完全明白为什么，也许爱情真的是盲目的。
他真的不知道在何年何月何时，在什么地方会再见到她，也许是在街上碰见？也许是下一次同学会？也许是她结婚的日子？但他希望在将来的某年某月某天，他们将会在同一间咖啡馆重逢，再续当晚的那美丽邂逅。
他期待着这一天。。。。。。
Wednesday, January 04, 2006
First Post in Blogger
yeah! Finally I set up another blog here. At least the whole world won't get any emails whenever I create a new post here :)
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